Alison Lobron has come out with a few winners in the Boston Globe Magazine lately.
Call it the checklist approach to dating: the notion that if one identifies key characteristics and evaluates dates accordingly, one is more likely to find a perfect match, guaranteeing romantic and marital contentment. No doubt, singles have always had some version of checklists, but the culture of Internet dating has codified them, and it’s even spilled over to dates generated offline. Internet users can search for potential partners by educational attainment, age, height, weight, and income level. They can rule out the plump, the smokers, the separated-but-not-divorced, then narrow the field further to exclude (or include) those who like country music, those who have ferrets, and, yes, those who have roommates.
…If I were ever to design a dating site or TV show, it would have no boxes, no categories, and no interrogations. Instead, I would take two people who find each other reasonably cute and give them some unpleasant task to complete, like, say, emptying the dumpsters behind Fenway Park. If they laughed at all during the process, I would tell them to go on a date. So here’s my new plan: From now on, if a first date seems to have some chemistry, I’m going to fake food poisoning. If we both like each other by the time we leave the emergency room, well, sign me up for a second date. And if he pops me in a cab and high-tails it out of there? Good thing I didn’t get in too deep.
–Alison Lobron, “My Soul Mate? Check.”, Boston Globe Magazine, July 30, 2006
(See also Rev. Warren’s musings in Gone Shopping.)




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